Nothing is permanent. These are the lines we hear since childhood but still always continue making promises of forever and always. And it takes a few of those promises to be broken or forgotten for us to realize that change is the only constant thing, ironically. We all have different sides of us, depending on the situation and people. We are different at home, with friends, with cousins, with relatives, with someone special and with random strangers. We show the side which we want our company to see, be it friends, family etc. On the perceiving side, we only see a part of people and never their whole self. But sometimes, you may come across a person in your life that either will see all your sides or might show you his/her’s. It doesn’t have to be a boyfriend or a girlfriend. It can be a best friend, siblings or anyone else. Seeing world through our eyes, experiencing our difficulties, our restrictions and our views on any topic is something all of us do. But one day it just got me thinking, what about seeing it through someone else’s eyes – experiencing their problems and restrictions as well as joy and happiness, living their childhood and going back with them to revisit their memories?
Fortunately, I have been blessed with one such friend. I have seen all her sides and to some extent she has seen mine too. I feel lucky enough to know her and it’s an underestimate to call her just best friend. Knowing her has made me realize that time isn’t the most accurate way to measure the strength of friendship. You can know a person for ten years and still be strangers, and you can know a person for one month and still be much closer friends. I have heard her talking about her childhood years with such innocence. It’s as if her eyes light up, when she talks about all the pranks she played and all the mischievous things she did. And when I listen to her, it’s as if I am living those moments with her. That I go back in time and see her being all wicked, in an innocent way though, and I am just standing around the corner, observing her and smiling. It seems as if I relive my childhood through her’s just by listening to her. Once I went to her house, she showed me this plethora of little things that she had saved up from childhood, which contained so many memories – her drawings, her certificates from fancy dress competitions when she was in play school and much more. Looking at her at that instant made me realize, that we never truly grow up. We just learn to mask the child inside us, better. And it is good to unleash the child inside us, once in a while, because, I think, that is what makes us pure. It was a profound moment for me, not because I had realized it for the first time in my life, but because the child inside made her so happy and care free for those five – ten minutes of her life. And happiness like that is something that many in their life races can’t seem to afford. Even though it is for five minutes, it brightens up the day. And what they say is right – happiness like this can’t be bought with money.
I don’t know how many of you experience this, but for me it was rare. Since our lives are so fast paced and techno savvy these days, the importance of feelings and emotions has diminished. It is rare to feel someone’s happiness or sadness to the same level as them. But maybe with the right person that comes along naturally.
As I said in the beginning, that nothing is permanent, and I don’t know what the future will hold. And honestly, after all the promises over the years, which were broken or forgotten, I think it’s time to stop worrying about forever and always. Many people might have come and gone, and many others will do the same. But in this huge sea of strangers, you might find someone worth to hold onto. And when you do, don’t just see a part of their personality. See as well as show all the sides that you have. Sometimes, these sides might bring you such happiness that even you didn’t know existed.
Some say that when you become close to someone, they take a part of you, which only they have and vice versa. I believe that might be true, only difference being that they might even take parts of you which you did not know existed until you met them. Everyone you meet brings out someone different in you. And they have a purpose in your life. That purpose might finish sooner than you want to, and it will hurt a lot when they leave. But that’s just Life – can’t change it, and hence no point criticizing it.
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